{"id":13000,"date":"2024-01-22T01:00:44","date_gmt":"2024-01-21T16:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sasugacommunications.com\/ja\/?p=13000"},"modified":"2024-01-26T03:50:48","modified_gmt":"2024-01-25T18:50:48","slug":"just-when-you-thought-things-were-going-well","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sasugacommunications.com\/ja\/just-when-you-thought-things-were-going-well","title":{"rendered":"Just When You Thought Things Were Going Well\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you ever experienced that when you\u2019re reaching a new level of success or happiness, suddenly things start to go wrong?<\/span><\/p>\n

You just got a fabulous new job\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You have a fantastic opportunity to speak at a conference\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re in a wonderful new relationship\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re just feeling more relaxed and positive about your future\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

And then any of these things could happen:<\/span><\/p>\n

You get sick\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Your tech goes haywire\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You get into an argument\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Unexpected things pop up and steal your time\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Or you just feel anxious for no apparent reason\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve experienced this sooooooo many times. One example was my first day at McKinsey. I was thrilled to join such a prestigious company. I was ready to make a GREAT impression. And then in the early afternoon I got a call from daycare that my daughter had a fever and I had to pick her up!<\/span><\/p>\n

This phenomenon is known by various names.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I first heard of it being called \u201cUpper Limiting\u201d in the amazing book <\/span>The Big Leap<\/b><\/a> by Gay Hendricks.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Then one of my coaches spoke about \u201cDisintegration Anxiety,\u201d which is when you\u2019re going through some form of personal or professional development and your identity is changing to a happier, more successful version of you. This creates anxiety.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Another of my coaches uses the term \u201cResistance\u201d for what holds you back when you\u2019re aiming for that next level.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Some people simply call it Self-Sabotage.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever you call it, it\u2019s basically the same thing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

As human beings, our brains are wired for safety and survival.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When we\u2019re about to achieve a new level of success or happiness, that brings a new world of uncertainty or worry about possible loss that the most primitive part of our brain reacts to as potential danger.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, don\u2019t ask me how it happens, but somehow that often doesn\u2019t just result in internal feelings of anxiety, but also seems to attract problems around us.<\/span><\/p>\n

Have you noticed that yourself?<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m actually writing this now because this is exactly what I\u2019ve been experiencing in the last few days. It\u2019s been CRAZY.<\/span><\/p>\n

Last week, I was feeling fabulous and so much was going well. Then one thing happened after another including a credit card issue, someone breaking trust, and even my kitten having diarrhea this morning just before a work call!<\/span><\/p>\n

While these might have sent me spiraling in the past (keeping me out of success and back in my \u201ccomfort zone\u201d from my brain\u2019s perspective), I see exactly what\u2019s happening.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how I\u2019ve been dealing with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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3 tips to help overcome upper limiting<\/b><\/h3>\n
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  1. Recognize that it\u2019s happening (and maybe have a sense of humor about it)<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Deal with the distractions without dwelling on them (you might call this the \u201cjust clean up the poo\u201d step)<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Be grateful for the positives of your new success or happiness (the more you acknowledge them, the more your brain will start to accept them as safe)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So I\u2019m keeping it light with laughter. Cleaning up merrily. And continuing on the up and up.<\/span><\/p>\n

    I hope this gives you some helpful perspective whenever you\u2019re taking your next step in your personal or professional growth.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Wahooooooo! Wednesday<\/b><\/p>\n

    If you missed it, check your social media to see my Wahooooooo! Wednesday video:<\/span><\/p>\n


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    Missing the Sasuga! Podcast?<\/b><\/h3>\n

    You might enjoy Episode 208: <\/span>New Year – Same Old You?<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n