{"id":4409,"date":"2016-11-29T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-11-29T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sasugacommunications.com\/ja\/when-should-i-say-no-2\/"},"modified":"2018-06-27T08:36:34","modified_gmt":"2018-06-27T08:36:34","slug":"when-should-i-say-no-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sasugacommunications.com\/ja\/when-should-i-say-no-2\/","title":{"rendered":"When Should I Say No?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u3053\u306e\u30d3\u30c7\u30aa\u3067\u306f\u3001\u3082\u3063\u3068\u300c<span lang=\"EN-US\">No<\/span>\u300d<wbr \/>\u3092\u8a00\u3046\u305f\u3081\u306e\u4e8c\u3064\u306e\u65b9\u6cd5\u3092\u3054\u7d39\u4ecb\u3057\u3066\u3044\u307e\u3059\u3002\u8a18\u4e8b\u306f\u82f1\u8a9e\u3067\u3059\u3002<wbr \/>\u3069\u3046\u305e\u304a\u5f79\u7acb\u3066\u304f\u3060\u3055\u3044\uff01<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8kkAP1y83Ho\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Can\u2019t see the video player above?\u00a0<span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/8kkAP1y83Ho\" target=\"_blank\">Watch it on YouTube<\/a><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/Scvai6LbXCI\">.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Transcript<\/h2>\n<p>Last week, we talked about how to say no to avoid being overloaded, potentially harming relationships, maybe even feeling physically or emotionally unwell.<\/p>\n<p>So how to say no is really about communicating with other people.<\/p>\n<p>This week I wanted to take a step back and look at how we communicate with ourselves, as in deciding when to say no. And I have a couple of suggestions for you around that.<\/p>\n<p>The first one comes from\u00a0<span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"https:\/\/sivers.org\/hellyeah?mc_cid=dda12adc65&amp;mc_eid=%5bUNIQID%5d\" target=\"_blank\">Derek Sivers<\/a>.<\/span> He says that when an opportunity comes along or when someone asks us to do something, we think about that and if we think \u201cHell, yeah! I really want to do that!,\u201d\u00a0then we say yes. But\u00a0f it\u2019s not a hell yeah, it\u2019s a no.<\/p>\n<p>And I love this idea because it\u2019s so simple. The challenge that I have with it is that I look at so many things as opportunities and I say \u201cOh, hell yeah, hell yeah, hell yeah!\u201d I want to do everything.<\/p>\n<p>So that leads\u00a0me to my second suggestion, which is to have criteria to help you decide what to say no to or what to say yes to. And this is something that\u00a0<span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"http:\/\/gregmckeown.com\/book\/?mc_cid=dda12adc65&amp;mc_eid=%5bUNIQID%5d\" target=\"_blank\">Greg McKeown<\/a><\/span>\u00a0talks about in\u00a0<em>Essentialism<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>So I&#8217;m going to share with you my criteria. I have four criteria. And you might want to think about your own criteria. Maybe you already have them or you can get some ideas perhaps from this.<\/p>\n<p>Your criteria may differ depending on whether you&#8217;re working for a company or whether, like me, you&#8217;re running your own business.<\/p>\n<p>So here are mine.<\/p>\n<p>The first one is\u00a0<b>&#8220;Do I have time?&#8221;<\/b>\u00a0And when I think about this, it\u2019s not just the time for the task &#8212; for example, if I&#8217;m invited to give a workshop &#8212;\u00a0it\u2019s also the preparation that goes into that. There\u2019s hours and hours of prep work. So do I have that time in my calendar? And If I don\u2019t have the time, it\u2019s a no.<\/p>\n<p>My second criterion\u00a0is\u00a0<b>&#8220;Is it in line with my mission?&#8221;<\/b>\u00a0So my mission is to help 2,020 people create communication habits for success and happiness in global business by 2020. And if the opportunity is not in line with that mission? Then it\u2019s a no.<\/p>\n<p>My third criterion\u00a0is\u00a0<b>&#8220;Will it generate my minimum hourly revenue or will it give me significant exposure?&#8221;<\/b>\u00a0So money is not really a big motivator for me. However, because I do run my own business, I do need to consider financials. So that&#8217;s why I&#8217;ve added this as a criterion.<\/p>\n<p>And my fourth criterion, I also added because I do tend to look at things very optimistically. So the fourth one is\u00a0<b>&#8220;What are the potential headaches and is it worth the pain?&#8221;<\/b>\u00a0So by having this criterion, it helps me to really think about what might be difficult in this opportunity or this project and is it really going to be worth doing it?<\/p>\n<p>So these are my four criteria. I hope they&#8217;re helpful to you and I hope they&#8217;re helpful in deciding when to say no.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re keen to learn more and to put into practice communication habits for success and happiness in global business, come and join us in the\u00a0<span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/sasugacommunity?mc_cid=dda12adc65&amp;mc_eid=%5bUNIQID%5d\" target=\"_blank\">Sasuga! Community Facebook group<\/a>.<\/span>\u00a0It\u2019s absolutely free. You can participate as much or as little as you like. Hope to see you there!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u3053\u306e\u30d3\u30c7\u30aa\u3067\u306f\u3001\u3082\u3063\u3068\u300cNo\u300d\u3092\u8a00\u3046\u305f\u3081\u306e\u4e8c\u3064\u306e\u65b9\u6cd5\u3092\u3054\u7d39\u4ecb\u3057\u3066\u3044\u307e\u3059\u3002\u8a18\u4e8b\u306f\u82f1\u8a9e\u3067\u3059\u3002\u3069\u3046\u305e\u304a\u5f79\u7acb\u3066\u304f\u3060\u3055\u3044\uff01 Can\u2019t see the video player above?\u00a0Watch it on YouTube. Transcript Last week, we talked about how to say no to avoid being overloaded, potentially harming relationships, maybe even feeling physically or emotionally unwell. So how to say no is really about communicating with other people. 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